Recent studies have shown that the rate of divorce in developed countries has increased significantly in the last 30 years: by 50%. That means that if 100 couples get married this month, half of them will break that bond they made in front of the Lord, and end their marriage.
Why is this happening? Can we find one culprit to place the blame on and rid our society of it? Probably not. Although there is no shortage of opinions on the matter, there doesn’t seem to be any one reason why people get divorced more often. We cannot blame women’s emancipation, since 20 years ago, they were just as emancipated. Some say it’s the technology that keeps us apart, by keeping us from communicating with each other quite like we used to, even though it brings some of us closer together. Some blame the lack or religion and prayer, while some others say that there is no faith in the Lord anymore.
All of those are viable reasons. But why don’t we stop looking for reasons, and start looking for ways to change the sad reality? Is it really that difficult to keep a marriage together? Is it that more difficult than it was 20-30 years ago? Most likely, no.
But what can we do? You spent a considerable amount of money on a wedding, a dress, all your family toasted to your long happy lives together, and your honeymoon was a blast. A decade later all of that is forgotten. The kids are killing your romance, bills are piling up, you’re needed at work 12 hours a day and your marriage is put on the backseat. Why?
The Lord does not intend for use to say that we are united under his eyes and under his word, for the rest of our lives, just so we can go to a lawyer and sign a paper that says otherwise within a few years. He intends for us to love each other and resolve our issues together, with patience and understanding.
If all else fails and your marriage seems in trouble, pray. The everyday prayer works, whether you choose to believe it or not. Ask your spouse to pray with you. If nothing else, it will be something you share. Reminisce on the good times: when you met, when you were on your honeymoon. All of that is not lost. You can get it back, but only if you truly want to. And if you don’t. Look back and ask yourself: “Why did I get married?” Teach unmarried couples to ask themselves that question, you may change something.
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7